When pain appears in relationships
Sometimes I wonder if the pain I feel comes from them... or from me.
If they are the ones who change,
Or are we the ones who, without realizing it, transform the space between two souls with our fears, our wounds, and our hopes?
Reflections on couple relationships
I've been thinking a lot about relationships lately.
About how they start.
About how they shine.
About how love is easy, clean, without so much noise...at the beginning.
And also about how, little by little, everything can change.
Beyond labels: narcissism and toxic relationships
Today everyone is talking about narcissism.
From toxic relationships.
People who need to be kept away from our lives.
But something in me resists putting labels on things.
Something in me knows that there is no such thing as a soul condemned forever.
Because everyone—everyone—at some point in our lives has acted from a place of hurt.
We have all been, at some point, a little narcissistic, a little selfish, a little blind.
What defines us in love?
So what defines us?
One moment?
A mistake?
A wound?
Or perhaps what truly defines us is what we choose to do after failing:
Have we woken up?
Shall we change?
Are we still asleep?
Remember how love begins
I remember what it was like when it all started.
When there were no labels or judgments.
When it was just love.
When I saw the other person's full potential and believed in them unconditionally.
And I wonder:
Was it really different then?
Or was it me who looked at him with different eyes, without fear, from the purest love?
The energy we share influences love
If everything is energy—and I truly believe that—
if everything is connected—and I feel it in my soul—
Don't we also influence how people behave around us?
When we look at someone with love, we nourish their light.
When we look at someone from a place of fear, we feed their shadow.
Perhaps we can't change anyone.
But we can influence things.
Yes, we can be mirrors where the other person remembers their best version... or their pain.
Heart vibration and relationships
The heart chakra, that invisible space that unites us all, vibrates with everything we feel.
When we love from a place of trust, we vibrate with expansion.
When we love from a place of need, we vibrate in lack.
And those around us feel that vibration, even if they can't explain it.
Creating reality as a couple
So I ask myself:
To what extent do we create the reality we experience as a couple?
To what extent do our fears and limiting beliefs not only attract, but also shape what happens?
Perhaps we choose from our wounds.
Perhaps we attract mirrors of what we need to heal.
Perhaps, at times, our love, so unconditional, also burdens the other person with expectations they cannot sustain.
The role of responsibility in love
Today I know that I am not responsible for healing anyone.
But I also know that I am not completely innocent in how the stories I live are constructed.
My energy creates.
My love invites.
My fears are a limiting factor.
And that doesn't make me guilty.
It makes me aware.
To love without labels or judgments
Today, in this time of silence,
I don't want to use pain to judge anyone.
I don't want to use absence to label.
I don't want to use fear to build a wall.
I want to look back on what I've experienced with love.
I want to remind everyone that behind every hurtful behavior, there was also a soul searching for its place.
Self-love and respect for the other person's process
And I want to remind myself:
I cannot walk someone else's path.
I cannot hasten the awakening of someone who is not yet ready to open their eyes.
I cannot take on anyone else's burden.
But I can be a silent invitation to your own light.
Yes, I can pray for his soul, hold him in love from afar, and trust that his timing will be perfect.
Let go peacefully in love
And if our paths vibrate at different frequencies,
I can also have the self-love to let it go peacefully,
knowing that life always guides us exactly to where we need to be.
Energy as the melody of the soul
Because in the end, our energy is a melody.
A song that vibrates in the invisible field of souls.
When we vibrate with love, with faith, with compassion,
We inspire others to remember who they are.
Our love can touch places we don't even know about.
Our thoughts can open windows in closed hearts.
The awakening: a personal choice
But waking up is always a choice.
Never an imposition.
We can plant light in someone's heart.
We can hold up his name in our prayers.
We can manifest its healing through the purest love.
But we cannot choose for them.
We cannot walk their path.
The true meaning of love
Our task is to remain melody.
To continue being home.
To remain true.
And to trust that, somehow, in some way,
All true love finds its way back home.
Perhaps loving someone isn't about changing them.
Perhaps to love is to remember who we are,
sustain our own light,
and allow whoever wants to shine with us,
do it by your own choice.
Questions to reflect on about love
And you...
Are you looking at the other person from a place of love or from your own fears?
Are you projecting your limiting beliefs, your wounds, your doubts onto the relationship... or are you choosing to see the light that exists behind it all?
Are you fueling the best version of the other person with your energy, or are you unwittingly dimming their light and your own?
Perhaps today is a good time to stop labeling,
Let go of the need to blame, and start looking inside yourself:
What story are you creating with your thoughts, your vibration, and your way of loving?
A reminder of self-love
And if you need a reminder today,
Keep these words within you:
"I trust in the light I saw in you."
But today I choose to trust my own more.
I love you, but I love myself more.
And wherever life takes us, we'll both be free."
